How To Talk To Anyone - Summary

> Summary: How to talk to Anyone by Leil Lowndes

Communication is the key to solve any problem, misunderstanding, interpretation or to develop a relationship.

And there’s tricks for that! Yes, there is.

The book has 9 parts following 92 little tips and tricks for communication to become an expert in any conversation. Sounds cool!

As there’s many tips covered by author (above 90), I’ll be focusing on some important one.

Let’s talk.

You only have ten seconds to show you’re somebody

• The flooding smile: Let your big, warm and responsive smile flood over your face and overflow into your eyes

• Sticky eyes: Pretend your eyes are glued to your conversation partner

• Hello old friend: Greet someone as if they are old friend

• Watch the scene before you make the scene: See yourself walking with smile, hear everyone chatting comfortably, Feel pleasure of knowing you are in peak, Visualize yourself a super somebody

What do I say after ‘hello’?

• Make a mood match: Listen the voice of other one to detect his or her mood and match their tone

• Always wear a Whatzit: ‘Excuse me, I couldn’t help but notice your … what IS that?’

• Never the naked city: ‘And where are you from?’ - learn the facts about partner’s hometown

• Be the word detector: Listen to the word of your conversation partner, find the clue to the subject that’s hot for other person

How to talk like big boy’s and girls

• NOT- What do you do: Ask ‘How do you spend most of your time?’

• Your personal thesaurus: Build your own rich, creative vocabulary of words

• Comm-YOU-nication: Start every appropriate sentences with YOU, will immediately grabs listeners attention

• Call a spade a spade: Don’t use tasteless four letter words when there’s decent five and six letter one exists

How to be an insider in any crowd

• Learn a little Gobbledygook: ‘How do you learn it?’

• Baring a hot button: Find the hot issues in field of group you are about to go

• Bluffing for bargains: Before any big purchase, learn words from a few vendors

Why, We’re just alike

• Be a copycat: Imitate the style of your conversation partner

• Echoing: Echoing speakers choice of words, verbs and prepositions

• Employ empathisers: Vocalise complete sentences to show your understanding like ‘I see what you mean’

• Premature we: Elicit intimate feelings by using ‘we’, ‘us’ and ‘our’

The power of praise

• Boomeranging: Let the complements boomerang back to the giver

• The tombstone game: Feed the deepest self-image to the listener in complement

Direct dial their hearts

• Name shower: Say the person’s name repeatedly when face-to-face sounds pandering, it keeps persons attention

• Oh wow, it’s you: Answer the caller with warm smile that spill over into your voice

• What colour is your time: Always asking the person about their timing ‘ Is it convenient time for you to talk?’

How to work a party like politician works a room

• Be the chooser, not the choosy: Do not waiting for movement , make it happen by exploring the face in room

• Come-hither hands: Arrange your hands in open position

• Eyeball selling: Observe the customer or friend’s reaction

Little tricks for big winners

• Lend a helping tongue: Let the interruption play itself out. Ask ‘So what happened after …..’

• Bare the buried WIIFM: Reveal what’s in it for you and what’s in it for other person

• Empty their tanks: Let people have their entire say first

• Lead the listeners: Be the first to applaud or publicly commend the man or woman you agree with or want favours from

“Repeating actions makes habit that creates your character & your character is your destiny”

My thoughts on reading this book:

Communication is the key to achieve people’s heart whether it is in personal life, friends, family, relationships or professional work life. Though this book I learn many tips and tricks on how to communicate with people in your group or even how to approach stranger. The key thing I learned is to be a good listener while you are in any conversation, use your eyeballs to grasp your surrounding and practice your smile. Though this little tricks one can get much more confidence and can be a able to talk to anyone.

Things I learned:

• In communication always prioritise the other one, give attention to them by listening carefully

• Practice and cultivate YOUR SMILE

• Make eye contact

• Enhance your vocabulary

• Use decent words rather than casual one

• Use person’s name more while you’re on call or in face-to-face chat

• Always ask for person’s time while making a call

• Complement people genuinely